Day 11: It’s not fair!

Thought for the Day: “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. . . . That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Corinthians 12:9 – 10)

A huge piece of delicious looking cake was delivered to our table. It was my favorite . . . it was our anniversary . . . and it was free! But I was at the beginning of my healthy eating adventure, which excluded sugary confections. So I graciously offered it to my husband. But inside a different dialogue was playing in my mind, “It’s not fair!”

I think this is one of the biggest tricks Satan plays to get us to give in to temptation. Saying “It’s not fair!” has caused many a girl to toss aside what she knows is right for the temporary thrill of whatever it is that does seem fair. We complain, “It’s not fair that I gain weight so easily when everyone else seems to eat whatever they want and stay trim.”

Now, realize that the dessert itself is not the problem. But if one piece of dessert leads to two and that leads to other compromises, which leads to wrecking our whole healthy eating plan, then the downward spiral reflects how temptation traps us in so many areas of life. I’ve experienced this vicious cycle myself, and I’m here to give you hope that it is possible to conquer it.

My pity party was a clue that I was relying on my own strength — a strength that has failed me before and will fail me again. So, when justifications swirl in my mind — “It’s a special day . . . with a special person . . . what’s the harm in sampling?” — I know I have to grab hold of God’s strength. The only way I’ve found to do that is to invite His power into the situation by mentally reciting truths such as, “I’m more than a conqueror,” “With God all things are possible,” or “Let the peace of God reign in your heart.”

This battle reminds me of the time I counseled a dating couple about setting boundaries in their physical relationship. They were looking forward to the best that marital sex had to offer, but struggled with maintaining purity in the face of immediate and temporary passion. They were tempted with the thought, “It’s not fair that we can’t have sex before we’re married when we’re so in love. Everyone else does.” My advice to them was to think beyond the moment, to say out loud, “This feels good now, but how will I feel about this in the morning? The truth is, compromising my commitments for the sake of physical pleasure is not God’s best for me.”

The same advice powerfully applies to our area of struggle. As we recite truth, God’s power can fill the gap of our weakness. I don’t know what you might be struggling with today, but I can assure you that God is just and fair. There is a good reason why we must face our temptations. The struggle to say “no” may be painful in the moment, but the process is working out something magnificent within us.


  1. Hebrews 6:10-12 God is always fair. He will remember how you helped his people in the past and how you are still helping them. You belong to God, and he won’t forget the love you have shown his people. We wish that each of you would always be eager to show how strong and lasting your hope really is. Then you would never be lazy. You would be following the example of those who had faith and were patient until God kept his promise to them.

  2. Right now there is a half a bag of jellybeans sitting on my bakers rack. It was a bag that my husband left me to save for my 10 YO daughter who is visiting her grandmother for a few days. I have been trying to make it a rule not to have any sweets in the house so that we can all live healthier lives, but those jellybeans are definitely a temptation. I know that if I were to eat one of them, I would end up finishing the bag and then go to the store to buy more. I will instead enjoy one of the apples sitting in a drawer in my refrigerator. I will be nourishing the body that houses my spirit.

    • I Sooo am with u!!!! With Easter just here I have more jelly beans and reeses peanut butter cup eggs itcan be a temptation for sure. I have made a commitment to God, our amazing Father that I will not eat anything but what is in the Daniel fast and He has given me strength to push through. I too had myself an apple instead…hehe…too funny. Have an amazing journey growing closer and closer to our Dad as your self-control increases….what an amazing peace…..”may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him….” Romans 15:13 the key is the trusting Him part for sure

  3. help, I don’t seem to be able to stay away from the sweets…….Karen E.

  4. I had a really great day yesterday. The family ate a ton of starchy options, 10 of them in all from breads to sweets to chicken and dumplings! (My MIL had cooked for us.) I said no to each and every item that did not fit on my plan. So today, I sprang out of bed and headed to the scales, just knowing my denials would pay off. What I found is not only did I not lose any weight, I’m actually up a half pound! Talk about discouragement! Talk about thinking, It’s not fair! I began to cry and am still feeling quite bummed about this. How can you choose romaine and chicken and turn down brownies and gain weight?!? My husband prayed over me and asked the Lord to help me find joy in Him, not in weight loss. Ouch…

  5. I really needed this reminder today. A leader in my step study once suggested “playing that tape all the way through.” I haven’t gotten to that point yet. When I binge, I find myself searching for ways to stop myself in the moment. And it’s so hard for me to stop. Last night I binged again; and today I woke up sad, heartbroken that I’d been okay for almost an entire week. And I didn’t make it. I woke up feeling bloated and gurgly. I have gastrointestinal distress. Why do I do this?

    It isn’t worth it.

    • I just celebrated 20 years sobriety because I had learned I was totally powerless over alcohol. I ate sweets for years every day. I have known and talked about my addiction for years. You can’t just know something in your head though. You have to get it in your heart also. I know I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength (Phillipians 4:13). This book is great that this lady wrote. My sister just got it for me for my birthday. I have read all but the last three chapters. We need to pray, have our quiet time with God every day and resist the devil. Read scripture and you will get the rewards of a healthy body and mind. Don’t wallow in quilt when you blow it somedays. Just use the 12 step program and God’s word and I promise you all will be great one day at a time.

  6. Okay this is Day 11 on the 24 day challenge! I haven’t gotten anywhere! There it is again, “I,” “me.” When I have my time with the Lord each day, I am so ready to face anything and everything that Satan throws my way, but when I see reeses pieces, or ice cream, or ____________________, I seem to forget everything God spoke to me that morning. I am certainly learning that I am weaker than I realized. I know the truth in God’s word, but I haven’t been retrieving it in those “hard” times throughout the day, or maybe even ignoring it!
    Please pray for strength to endure, for faithfulness in allowing God to be my Strength and relying on HIM for my satisfaction and not Reeses Pieces!

    • This is my problem. I feel so confident when I wake up, pray, read my Bible, make my commitments to God that I WILL eat healthy, then the next time there’s something good to eat, I completely overdo it. I feel so defeated afterwards. I am definitely weak when it comes to food and I am desperate for help and discipline.

  7. This message echos the one about us being made for more. God’s best is better than anything we can imagine. When we lean on him and trust his word, good things will come that we never expected … more than just a healthy body, mind, and soul.

  8. This would come on my birthday – pure example if God’s timing! I am worth more than that slice of birthday cake or the high calorie yummy meal that tends to come with celebrations. With God’s strength, I will make healthy choices and stay true to my plan and His direction for me!

    • Trust me. There are always consequences of our actions. I had cancer in 2007 and was told by my doctor the fat in my body was what caused the cancer and to take resposibility and lose weight. I did not lose weight then until a few months ago. I now have a lab report I just got that says I am at a higher risk now for diabeties and to have a follow up with my doctor in three months. I am cancer free today and hope I have had a strong enough wake up call this time with this latest lab report to leave the junk alone and eat healthy. Galatians 6:7 is a good scripture to read. God loves us, but wants us to take responsibility for our actions. James 1:22 says to be a doer of the word of God and not just a hearer only.

  9. I sure needed this today! I have committed to a healthier lifestyle, but, the temptations are surrounding me! I know I’m not really hungry…but that need to satisfy a craving feels overwhelming sometimes. Thanks for the reminder to pray the truths God gives us to be more than a conqueror!!!

  10. I needed to hear this today becasue yesterday I had a very weak day and needed the reminder to use the Holy Spirit’s determination instead of self determination. This weakness is so strong, and I am praying for God to give me his strength. God bless!

  11. Press on sisters in Christ. We will be victorious in Jesus. Inner strength is growing as we look at the pancakes, bacon, syrup at breakfast being fed to others and you choose onions, spinach , tomatoes, covered with eggbeaters. Thank you Jesus !

  12. I have been reading the post of all of you beautiful ladies! I am so proud of the whole crew! I beleive that YOU will conqueror this! Your hearts are in the right place and God will take your best efforts and multiple it. I know this is hard for you all I struggle moment by moment as well but I have learned that when I take my focus off of the future whether the future is five minute or five weeks and just be in the moment that a whole bunch of moments pass by rather quickly!!! My prayers and Love to you all Stay Real and Stay Strong in Christ.

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