Day 3: Excuse me, pass the shame … please

Thought for the Day: We were made for more! More than this failure . . . more than this cycle . . . more than being ruled by our taste buds, body image, rationalizations, and guilt. We were made for victory. Sometimes we just have to find our way to that truth.

More than once, I’ve held the latest, greatest, diet book in one hand with my other hand wedged into the back pocket of my ever-tightening jeans. But the thought of taking the plunge and signing up for another diet made me want to sit down and cry. I’d return the book to the shelf, toss my head back, and sigh, “Another day, another time. I’m doing the best I can right now.”

It is so tempting to quit the health struggle entirely and pretend it doesn’t really matter spiritually. But it does matter and not just for the physical or emotional setbacks. It’s the denial of a fundamental spiritual truth. What is this truth?

Your parents might have said it to you when you got sassy and disrespectful . . .
“More is expected of you. You aren’t a brat, so don’t act like one.”

Your teacher might have said it to you when turned in a halfhearted term paper . . .
“You have more potential as a student than what you’ve shown here.”

Your friends have definitely said it when your loser boyfriend dumped you . . .
“He didn’t deserve you. You’re worthy of a better love than he could offer.”

Today, your heavenly Father is telling you the same truth: “You were made for more!” More than this failure . . . more than this cycle of defeat . . . more than being ruled by taste buds, body image, rationalizations, guilt, and shame. You were made for victory.

Ephesians 1:18 – 19 says: “I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which [God] has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe.”

This truth is a great script to play in our heads every time we’re tempted with guilt, rationalizations, or the “I’ll-do-better-tomorrow” escape clauses. Do any of these sound familiar?

  • “I’m good in every other area.”
  • “I’ll do better tomorrow.”
  • “For heaven’s sake, everyone has issues. So what if food is mine?”

Addressing our thinking is one of the most crucial steps toward permanent progress in any area and stopping the cycle of shame and defeat. We have to rewrite those negative scripts by getting into the habit of saying truth. And, the first of these truths is, “I was made for more.” Wrapped in this truth is a wisdom and revelation that unlocks great power.

We need a power beyond our frail attempts and fragile resolve. We need strength greater than our taste buds, hormones, temptations, and our inborn female demand for chocolate. Yes, the truth of who we are and the power to live out that truth — that’s what we need. So, say it out loud with me today: I was made for more!


  1. i WAS made for more.. i so needed this.. since starting this 4 days ago, God is REALLY dealing with me about smoking, and food.. with tears i say,i am tired of being heavy, unhealthy and not able to hardly walk(this is VERY hard for me to say) , do my job, breathe.. and all because of my mentality… it is time.. RIGHT NOW..please pray for me… i just want to fall on my face before God in shame, but , I WAS MADE FOR MORE,,, SO i will, lift mine eyes to the hills, where my help comes from,, and start DIGGING UNTIL… BE STILL UNTIL, AND THANK HIM IN ALL CIRCUMSTANCES… thank you for this Lysa… and our leader… love…

  2. This is me. I have struggled over the last few years with stress from the circumstances we were in. I can trust God for everyone in the world, but when it comes to me I always feel like I’m going to get let down. I have lost 50lbs in the last year and while that is great, I can’t see it. I still put on my big jeans just so I can see that I haven’t gained it back and every time I do, I prepare for them to be tight. I know that I do not have to earn God’s love nor does He judge me on the things I judge myself about. I love the Lord, now I have to learn to love me!

  3. This guilt cycle is something I have been in for so long I can’t remember. Since starting to read the book Made to Crave I realize that my weight loss has become an obsession, that is not of God. I am looking for the balance.

    • you have hit the nail on the head for me—-I need to let go of my obsession for weight loss/food issues– there is no peace there.

  4. I’m thinking today of other women whose earthly families may have made them feel as if they weren’t worthwhile (Lysa was on KLOVE this morning talking about this topic.) God doesn’t make “throw away” people! (I) We were made for more!

  5. I WAS MADE FOR MORE!!!!! This book hit me all up side the head .I was it in the christian mag. Then I got it from the library. Man I was got so mad with you Lysa.I put the book down and the Holy Spirit made me pick it up again. I was still mad I even told him that it didn’t take all of this stuff. After all every thing is permissible. Then I cried I was 322 pounds that what got me there thinking everything was permissible after all Jesus said it and I believed it. Now I understand EVERYTHING IS PERMISSIBLE FOR ME-BUT NOT EVERYTHING IS BENEFICIAL. I was made for more. April 2013 I decide to Crave God more than food and I am still learning of His truths for me and of His great love for me. Lysa I thank you for listen to the voice of the Lord. On today I am made for more than food . On today see a dietitian and I even exercise because because it take all of this stuff. I am gaining so much from this new walk. I am also losing a lot which which I am great for.

  6. This has truly been a process…..enjoying this enlightening journey

  7. Lysa your so right about us being made for more. So why do we let ourselves get into this mess. Believing it is one thing but the actual doing it is where the true victory is. I needed this book and all of everyone’s support almost 12 years ago. Hopefully my story will help someone say I can make it. To show you how desperate a person can get and how we hate ourselves for not being stronger to succeed. I had a gastric bypass almost 12 years ago that went bad from day one. None of the staples the doctor put in worked. They all came out and was floating in my gastric juice. This led to infections beyond measure. The doctor had to go back in the next day and they put me in a coma. Things started failing and I was put on life support machines. I was put in ICU. You wouldn’t believe the struggles I went through besides the surgeries. The doctors didn’t think I’d make it. Even today when I run into one of the doctors that worked on my case they can’t believe I’m alive. To date I’ve had 22 complication surgeries to try and fix the problems that have arise from all the complication. I just had my last surgery in May of 2013 and I have to go see my doctor the 1st of Jan for another complication. My doctor is a miracle worker that God sent to me. No other doctor in my area would take me as a patient. I was to high a risk. After I got out of ICU I had to go to rehab and learn to o everything over again. So far this has been dealing with medical needs. The financial part was really bad too. I can bet that I’m pretty close to the $2 million dollar mark. I lost my job, our home, car, and precious time with my family. I lost weight but have gained some back which isn’t good. If we would only be smart and pray and trust God. That’s why I think this study is so valuable. Don’t make the same mistakes I’ve made. Take advantage of the book, the support from others and anything else that God provides for you. This will be my 2nd trip through this study because I still haven’t learned my lessons that God wants to teach me. I do need your prayers and support. Thank you Lysa and all the other wonderful ladies in Proverbs 31 that have so many good studies that want to help us have God’s best. Someday I hope to be able to have Linda as a life coach or go on one of your cruise’s and meet you. God bless you.

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